<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?><feed xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" ><generator uri="https://jekyllrb.com/" version="4.4.1">Jekyll</generator><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/feed/content/grief.xml" rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" /><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/" rel="alternate" type="text/html" /><updated>2026-04-20T19:14:30+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/feed/content/grief.xml</id><title type="html">The Open Buddhist University | Content | Grief</title><subtitle>A website dedicated to providing free, online courses and bibliographies in Buddhist Studies. </subtitle><author><name>Khemarato Bhikkhu</name><uri>https://twitter.com/buddhistuni</uri></author><entry><title type="html">What if you had three faces?</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/what-if-you-had-three-faces_hartman-grace" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="What if you had three faces?" /><published>2024-07-23T19:30:57+07:00</published><updated>2024-07-23T19:30:57+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/what-if-you-had-three-faces_hartman-grace</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/what-if-you-had-three-faces_hartman-grace"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>I avoided mirrors. I avoided pictures. I wasn’t going to let anyone take a picture of me from the side until I got my nose fixed.</p>
</blockquote>]]></content><author><name>Grace Hartman</name></author><category term="av" /><category term="body" /><category term="grief" /><category term="medicine" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[I avoided mirrors. I avoided pictures. I wasn’t going to let anyone take a picture of me from the side until I got my nose fixed.]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Marte</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/marte_hernandez-gustavo" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Marte" /><published>2024-04-16T15:04:10+07:00</published><updated>2024-04-16T15:04:10+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/marte_hernandez-gustavo</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/marte_hernandez-gustavo"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>I raise a finger to a point in the night…</p>
</blockquote>

<p>How much our minds live (and live on) in the people around us.</p>]]></content><author><name>Gustavo Hernandez</name></author><category term="av" /><category term="grief" /><category term="communication" /><category term="families" /><category term="intellect" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[I raise a finger to a point in the night…]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Fragment (Stone)</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/fragment_lauterbach-ann" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Fragment (Stone)" /><published>2024-04-10T16:35:15+07:00</published><updated>2024-04-10T16:35:15+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/fragment_lauterbach-ann</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/fragment_lauterbach-ann"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>what counts here does anything count<br />
on the short walk while looking down and then over then up…</p>
</blockquote>]]></content><author><name>Ann Lauterbach</name></author><category term="av" /><category term="craft" /><category term="grief" /><category term="intellect" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[what counts here does anything count on the short walk while looking down and then over then up…]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Mindfulness-Based Interventions for People Diagnosed with a Current Episode of an Anxiety or Depressive Disorder: A Meta-Analysis of Randomised Controlled Trials</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/articles/mindfulness-based-interventions-for_strauss-clara-et-al" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Mindfulness-Based Interventions for People Diagnosed with a Current Episode of an Anxiety or Depressive Disorder: A Meta-Analysis of Randomised Controlled Trials" /><published>2024-02-19T16:03:29+07:00</published><updated>2024-11-12T10:51:57+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/articles/mindfulness-based-interventions-for_strauss-clara-et-al</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/articles/mindfulness-based-interventions-for_strauss-clara-et-al"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>Effects of Mindfulness Based Interventions on primary symptom severity were found for people with a current depressive disorder and it is recommended that MBIs might be considered as an intervention for this population.</p>
</blockquote>]]></content><author><name>Clara Strauss</name></author><category term="articles" /><category term="meditation" /><category term="grief" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[Effects of Mindfulness Based Interventions on primary symptom severity were found for people with a current depressive disorder and it is recommended that MBIs might be considered as an intervention for this population.]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Recovery Oriented Language Guide</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/booklets/words-matter_mhcc" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Recovery Oriented Language Guide" /><published>2023-11-16T16:18:27+07:00</published><updated>2024-09-24T14:48:08+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/booklets/words-matter_mhcc</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/booklets/words-matter_mhcc"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>None of us should be defined by the mental
health conditions or psychosocial difficulties
that we experience, or by any single aspect
of who we are. We should be respected as
individuals first and foremost.</p>
</blockquote>

<p>While the simple “say this instead of that” format erases a huge amount of nuance and complexity, the guide is still a valuable and practical primer on how to talk to and about people who are going through difficult times.</p>]]></content><author><name>The Mental Health Coordinating Counsil</name></author><category term="booklets" /><category term="grief" /><category term="psychology" /><category term="speech" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[None of us should be defined by the mental health conditions or psychosocial difficulties that we experience, or by any single aspect of who we are. We should be respected as individuals first and foremost.]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">What if you killed someone?</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/what-if-you-killed-someone" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="What if you killed someone?" /><published>2023-08-31T12:34:47+07:00</published><updated>2025-05-24T13:54:56+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/what-if-you-killed-someone</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/what-if-you-killed-someone"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>That was a bargain I thought I had made with life:
when all is said and done, I will somehow have done a little bit more good than harm.
That was completely busted.</p>
</blockquote>]]></content><author><name>Shane Snowden</name></author><category term="av" /><category term="grief" /><category term="cars" /><category term="death" /><category term="inner" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[That was a bargain I thought I had made with life: when all is said and done, I will somehow have done a little bit more good than harm. That was completely busted.]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Resilience and the Ethics of “Big Mind” Thinking in the Tibetan Diaspora</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/articles/resilience-and-ethics-of-big-mind_lewis-sara" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Resilience and the Ethics of “Big Mind” Thinking in the Tibetan Diaspora" /><published>2023-06-23T14:48:42+07:00</published><updated>2024-09-24T14:48:08+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/articles/resilience-and-ethics-of-big-mind_lewis-sara</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/articles/resilience-and-ethics-of-big-mind_lewis-sara"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>Drawing on extensive ethnographic research in Dharamsala, India, this article considers how  sems pa chen po  (vast or spacious mind) can be understood as emblematic of the Tibetan Buddhist view of resilience.</p>
</blockquote>

<blockquote>
  <p>The “big mind” view acts as a kind of north star principle, guiding the way, even and especially among those who are struggling.
A spacious mind is not merely an outcome, but a pathway, a method, and a horizon, orienting those who are suffering toward recovery.
This article explores resilience from a perspective that suffering is inherently workable, and in fact, can be a great teacher.
This argument is framed theoretically within an “anthropology of the good,” which seeks to understand resilience as moral experience; more aptly explaining what Tibetan Buddhists do in the face of adversity than the dichotomy of trauma/resilience, which is rooted narrowly in a Euro-American view of mental health.</p>
</blockquote>]]></content><author><name>Sara Lewis</name></author><category term="articles" /><category term="cosmology" /><category term="tibetan-diaspora" /><category term="grief" /><category term="clinical-psychology" /><category term="problems" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[Drawing on extensive ethnographic research in Dharamsala, India, this article considers how sems pa chen po (vast or spacious mind) can be understood as emblematic of the Tibetan Buddhist view of resilience.]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Snp 3.8 Salla Sutta: The Arrow</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/canon/snp3.8" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Snp 3.8 Salla Sutta: The Arrow" /><published>2022-11-14T17:45:21+07:00</published><updated>2024-09-24T14:48:08+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/canon/snp.3.08</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/canon/snp3.8"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>not by weeping &amp; grief<br />
do you gain peace</p>
</blockquote>

<p>A poem about facing death squarely and realistically.</p>]]></content><author><name>Ajahn Geoff Ṭhānissaro</name><uri>https://buddhistuniversity.net/authors/geoff</uri></author><category term="canon" /><category term="snp" /><category term="death" /><category term="grief" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[not by weeping &amp; grief do you gain peace]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">A Room of Her Own</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/room-of-her-own_de-ming" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="A Room of Her Own" /><published>2022-08-28T11:26:58+07:00</published><updated>2022-08-28T11:26:58+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/room-of-her-own_de-ming</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/room-of-her-own_de-ming"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>She hides in the room she painted for herself,<br />
tuning, listening…</p>
</blockquote>]]></content><author><name>Ming De</name></author><category term="av" /><category term="ideology" /><category term="writing" /><category term="problems" /><category term="grief" /><category term="karma" /><category term="inner" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[She hides in the room she painted for herself, tuning, listening…]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Rum Hee</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/rum-hee_tokumaru-shugo" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Rum Hee" /><published>2021-06-07T16:55:47+07:00</published><updated>2024-01-20T10:30:49+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/rum-hee_tokumaru-shugo</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/rum-hee_tokumaru-shugo"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>せせらぎが止まるよ 重なる髪かざり <br />
せせらぎが止まるよ 風向きが変わるよ</p>
</blockquote>

<p>An exuberant celebration of youthful disaster.</p>

<p>See also the heart-warming <a href="https://youtu.be/a4RsOIBer5M" ga-event-value="0.5" target="_blank">Tonofon Remote Festival Version</a> recorded during the height of the Covid-19 pandemic in June 2020.</p>]]></content><author><name>Shugo Tokumaru (トクマルシューゴ)</name></author><category term="av" /><category term="time" /><category term="aging" /><category term="adolescence" /><category term="inner" /><category term="disasters" /><category term="death" /><category term="grief" /><category term="alcohol" /><category term="brahmavihara" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[せせらぎが止まるよ 重なる髪かざり せせらぎが止まるよ 風向きが変わるよ]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Why Fish Don’t Exist</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/monographs/why-fish-dont-exist_miller-lulu" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Why Fish Don’t Exist" /><published>2021-02-15T17:01:19+07:00</published><updated>2023-07-22T00:04:41+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/monographs/why-fish-dont-exist_miller-lulu</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/monographs/why-fish-dont-exist_miller-lulu"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>… the trick that has helped me squint at the bleakness and see them more clearly is to admit, with every breath, that you have no idea what you are looking at.</p>
</blockquote>

<p>Half a history of, and accessible meditation on the philosophy of, science and half memoir of the author’s grappling with depression, this pleasantly easy read captures something of “emptiness.” It shows how Buddhism still has much to add in the West’s ongoing struggle to reconcile its extremes of naive, Christian eternalism and cynical, “scientific” nihilism.</p>]]></content><author><name>Lulu Miller</name></author><category term="monographs" /><category term="oceans" /><category term="science" /><category term="philosophy-of-science" /><category term="california" /><category term="language" /><category term="grief" /><category term="gender" /><category term="biology" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[… the trick that has helped me squint at the bleakness and see them more clearly is to admit, with every breath, that you have no idea what you are looking at.]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">I Catch Sight of the Now</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/catch-sight-of-now_graham-jorie" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="I Catch Sight of the Now" /><published>2021-01-04T08:14:17+07:00</published><updated>2023-07-22T00:04:41+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/catch-sight-of-now_graham-jorie</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/av/catch-sight-of-now_graham-jorie"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>… slender citrine lip onto which I place, gently, this first handful of hair</p>
</blockquote>]]></content><author><name>Jorie Graham</name></author><category term="av" /><category term="daily-life" /><category term="present" /><category term="nuns" /><category term="emptiness" /><category term="ambulit" /><category term="sati" /><category term="grief" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[… slender citrine lip onto which I place, gently, this first handful of hair]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Illness as Metaphor</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/articles/illness-as-metaphor_sontag" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Illness as Metaphor" /><published>2020-11-15T20:52:23+07:00</published><updated>2024-09-24T14:48:08+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/articles/illness-as-metaphor_sontag</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/articles/illness-as-metaphor_sontag"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>… the most truthful way of regarding illness — and the healthiest way of being ill — is one most puriﬁed of, most resistant to, metaphoric thinking</p>
</blockquote>

<p>A classic and much-cited essay on the (mis)use of metaphors to describe disease.</p>

<p>Available online from the original publisher: <a href="https://www.nybooks.com/articles/1978/01/26/illness-as-metaphor/" target="_blank">Part 1</a>, <a href="https://www.nybooks.com/articles/1978/02/09/images-of-illness/" target="_blank">Part 2</a>, and <a href="https://www.nybooks.com/articles/1978/02/23/disease-as-political-metaphor/" target="_blank">Part 3</a>. Years later, Sontag also wrote in the NYRB, <a href="https://www.nybooks.com/articles/1988/10/27/aids-and-its-metaphors/" target="_blank">this time on the metaphors of AIDS</a> in a compelling post-script later published alongside the original essay.</p>

<p>After reading, consider <a href="https://drive.google.com/file/d/1-DX-Y8PdQksPWjN5MiNNQ_-9w1SWO-pE/view?usp=drivesdk" target="_blank">these discussion questions about the essay</a>.</p>]]></content><author><name>Susan Sontag</name><uri>https://buddhistuniversity.net/authors/sontag</uri></author><category term="articles" /><category term="death" /><category term="disease" /><category term="grief" /><category term="chaplaincy" /><category term="thought" /><category term="language" /><category term="speech" /><category term="inner" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[… the most truthful way of regarding illness — and the healthiest way of being ill — is one most puriﬁed of, most resistant to, metaphoric thinking]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">SN 55.54 Gilāna Sutta: Sick</title><link href="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/canon/sn55.54" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="SN 55.54 Gilāna Sutta: Sick" /><published>2020-10-12T14:51:58+07:00</published><updated>2024-09-24T14:48:08+07:00</updated><id>https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/canon/sn.055.054</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://buddhistuniversity.net/content/canon/sn55.54"><![CDATA[<blockquote>
  <p>… how a wise lay follower should advise another wise lay follower who is sick</p>
</blockquote>

<p>Ending with a rather unusual description of the path as turning the mind progressively higher.</p>]]></content><author><name>Bhante Sujato</name><uri>https://buddhistuniversity.net/authors/sujato</uri></author><category term="canon" /><category term="sn" /><category term="death" /><category term="grief" /><category term="chaplaincy" /><category term="lay" /><category term="path" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[… how a wise lay follower should advise another wise lay follower who is sick]]></summary></entry></feed>